The Friday sermon for July 24, 2026 (corresponding to 9 Safar 1448 AH) - Sayed Hashim Behbehani Mosque - Sheikh Ali Hassan Ghuloum - Kuwait

 

The 1st sermon:

Wisdom in Silence: Contemporary Guidance on Mindful Speech and Digital Etiquette

Introduction
In an era dominated by constant communication, the prophetic and historical wisdom regarding mindful speech remains a vital cornerstone for personal dignity and social harmony.

Core Wisdom & Principles

• Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) stated: "Part of a man’s sound understanding"—reflecting maturity, strong character, and guidance—"is speaking little about what does not concern him."
• Imam Hasan Al-Mujtaba (PBUH) noted: "Silence is an excellent aid in many situations, even if you are eloquent."

Modern Manifestations of Unwarranted Interference

1. Private Matters: Intruding into personal affairs discussed by others contradicts wisdom and constitutes nosiness.
2. Specialized Topics: Opining on specialized fields without logical, textual, or empirical evidence violates this principle.
• Medical Example: Suggesting treatments without being a qualified doctor.
• Social Example: Offering marital advice that destroys relationships.

The Digital Age Application
This timeless wisdom directly applies to modern social media platforms. Users should:

• Avoid commenting on every broadcasted post.
• Steer clear of futile online arguments.
• Refrain from discourse that carries legal or religious consequences.

Key Positive Impacts of Mindful Silence

• Preserving Dignity: Speaking less maintains authority and commands respect, unlike excessive talkers.
• Reducing Errors: Prolific talking increases mistakes, endangering oneself or others.
• Respecting Privacy: Avoiding nosiness builds bridges of trust and mutual appreciation.
• Spiritual Protection: Guarding the self against backbiting, lying, slander, and gossip.
• Harm Prevention: Shielding individuals from arguments that breed hatred in hearts.

The 2nd sermon:

Decoding Your Husband: The Four Pillars of a Balanced Man’s Personality

Introduction
When a person does not know how a machine works and uses it... it may suffer a severe or total breakdown. The same applies when a person is ignorant of the traits of the other party and deals with them... where the possibility of causing severe damage to the relationship arises as a result. Therefore, it is important for a woman to know the general traits shared among the majority of men, and then the specific traits of her husband... and vice versa.Understanding the core psychological traits of a well-adjusted man is essential for fostering healthy family dynamics and societal harmony. Experts outline four foundational pillars that define masculine identity and emotional well-being.

The Four Core Pillars

• 1) Competitiveness (Self-Realization)
• The Drive: Driven by challenge, competition, and enduring hardships to achieve self-worth.
• The Effort: Invests heavy effort and long hours daily to excel.
• The Support: Assisted naturally by his physical and muscular build.
• 2) Protection (The Defender)
• The Role: Thrives on shielding his wife, children, mother, and loved ones.
• The Action: Desires to be the ultimate recourse for securing their rights.
• The Commitment: Ready to fight fiercely to ensure their safety.
• 3) Provision (The Provider)
• The Mindset: Derives deep joy and satisfaction from financially supporting others.
• The Shift: Marriage flips his financial agenda from solo spending to family-centered budgeting.
• The Future: Focuses intensely on securing his family’s future, both during his life and after death.
• The Risk: Failure causes severe embarrassment, internal shame, and a wounded sense of dignity.
• The Crisis: Joblessness totally destroys a man's psyche, sometimes driving him to illegal acts or suicide.
• 4) Priority (The Need to Matter)
• The Position: Needs to feel he is the number one priority in his home.
• The Reaction: Losing this status to his wife may drive him to seek validation elsewhere.
• The Necessity: Craves feeling needed; feeling dispensable breeds despair and frustration.

The Power of Spoken Appreciation

• The Phrases: Men deeply love hearing affirming words from their wives, such as:
• "May you live long to provide for us."
• "May God multiply your blessings."
• "You work so hard for our sake."
• "Where would we be without you?"
• The Impact: Though providing is a legal, religious, and cultural duty, these words touch his heart deeply.
• The Ultimate Validation: Even if he falls short of their highest ambitions, knowing his family is proud of his hard work means everything to him.

The Model Wife: A Prophetic Encounter

• The Narration: A man came to Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and described his wife: "When I enter, she welcomes me; when I leave, she sees me off. If she sees me anxious, she says: 'What worries you? If you worry about your sustenance, it is guaranteed by someone else (God). If you worry about your hereafter, may God increase your concern.'"
• The Divine Reward: The Prophet (PBUH) responded: "Give her glad tidings of Paradise. Tell her she is one of God’s workers, and she receives half the reward of a martyr."
• The Meaning: Being "one of God’s workers" means she operates seamlessly according to the divine blueprint set by the ultimate Employer.

Addressing the Skeptics (The Healthy Majority vs. Exceptions)

• The Argument: Cynics argue that some men neglect financial duties or depend entirely on women.
• The Reality: This discourse addresses the healthy, well-adjusted majority of men. Crucial principles should not be lost in futile debates over outliers.

Feminine Identity vs. Masculine Needs

• The Parallel: A man's need to be a provider or protector is not selfishness; it is part of his identity.
• Feminine Analogy: Similarly, a woman naturally loves to adorn herself (as referenced in Surah Az-Zukhruf:18) and desires to hear praise about her beauty and love. This is her feminine essence, not selfishness.

Defining True Selfishness in a Man
A man crosses into toxicity and selfishness when he:

• Withholds financial support and prioritizes his luxury spending over family necessities.
• Spends every night socializing with friends, ignoring his wife's emotional need for companionship.
• Prioritizes his personal interests over the collective well-being of his household.
• Focuses solely on his own desires, expecting absolute devotion while ignoring his wife's distinct emotional and physical needs.

The Power of Romantic Validation

• The Prophetic Principle: Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) stated: "A man's saying to his wife, 'I love you,' never leaves her heart."
• The Impact: Simple emotional validation creates an enduring bond of security within a woman.

Strategic Blueprint for Marital Success

• The Wife’s Role: Understanding core masculine traits—competitiveness, protection, provision, and priority—allows a wife to validate her husband's manhood and leadership through appreciative words. This minimizes conflicts and de-escalates potential family crises.
• The Husband’s Role: Reciprocity is mandatory. The husband is equally responsible for deeply understanding general feminine psychology, his wife's unique personality, and her emotional and physical needs.